jeremy lebor... love, lust, desire and heart

Love, Lust,
Desire & Heart...

"Trying to describe the feeling of true love, is like trying to describe the taste of water..."

What is Love, Lust, Desire and Heart? - Although they are connected in many ways, they are often confused as being similar, when in fact they are four very different things... However, whereas lust, is an emotion... love, is simply... devotion...

Below, are some thoughts (...and they are only thoughts) on Love, Lust, Desire & Heart... These are very different to thought(s) of the day, that appear upon this site... You may also wish to take a look at the seperate section that is dedicated solely to the special day of... Valentine's day, by clicking here...

Love...

The subject of love is often a taboo matter. Everyone has an opinion... well actually, most people shy away from discussing it - For a woman, emotions at times, are at best volatile, while for a man, it is not considered to be the 'macho thing' for them to discuss their feelings, and certainly not openly... However, as sure as night follows day, love does exist, and each and every one of us is loved by someone, somewhere, at some point in our lives... However, love, should not be confused, as it often is with lust... Love begins with an image; Lust with a sensation...

There are however a few things that we should all remember... 'No one is perfect until you fall in love with them' ...and 'To ask someone to describe true love, is like asking them to describe the taste of water...' Finally, there is something else we all need to realise... 'She is always right!'... and... 'Love can make a weak man strong, but true love will always make a brave man fall to his knees...

What is love?

Love, is the affinity experienced between two people who are naturally able and willing to tune into one another's emotional, intellectual, and physical states... and respond to them in a nurturing and a stimulating way... Therefore love is a relationship...

The dictionary describes the word 'love', 'as an intense feeling of deep affection...' and, 'a deep romantic attachment to someone'...' It is to feel love for... loving, showing love, or great care'...

But love is so much more... It isn't just about the hugs, the kisses, the flowers or the gifts. It is about how you feel when you are with (and without) that person... It should not be confused with lust! - That feeling of love, that when you are with them, you are on top of the world, and because of that feeling, every sensation is heightened. The scents seem sweeter; the colours brighter, the sounds even seem more melodic, and the world as a whole becomes so much more beautiful...

Have you ever asked yourself why it is so difficult to stop thinking about someone? We are all psychic in one way or another. When you connect to another man/woman in a deep way, you are connecting with your souls. Most people don't realise how psychic they really are. Everyone is clairsentient whether they know it or not. Being clairsentient means that you have the psychic ability to feel another person's energy and feelings.

When you think about someone in a normal way, there is nothing unusual there. Then all of a sudden you feel overwhelmed like you are in a fog and you can't stop thinking about them. Now, stop for a second and focus on where you are feeling the energy. It is usually in the heart and chest area. You've had that funny feeling before. You just thought it was YOU. What is going on is that you are feeling their thoughts. What you are feeling is what they are feeling and thinking about you... That is love...

When you are with that person that you love, it is as if the rest of the world disappears... they are the only thing that matters. You feel you want to spend the rest of your life with that person, even if it doesn't seem possible at the time... When you get into fights, your stomach flips and you feel as though your whole world has changed. The ground underneath you literally feels unsteady, and it is like everything around you comes crashing down... and you cannot stand the pain... But these moments, although you may both be hurt at the time, tears may be shed, and even hateful words may be spoken...

Eventually however, you will learn from these experiences... At the time, looking into their eyes which no longer sparkle, but instead, are filled with tears that they too are trying to hold back. It may feel as though you are going down this dark, endless tunnel that you will never reach the end of... but eventually, no matter what you may be thinking at the time... you will find the light...

The moment comes when the two of you realise that the person means so much more to you than whatever it was that you were arguing about and, unbelievably, you find that you love that person even more, as impossible as that may seem...

Many say that love hurts, but that is simply not true... Loneliness hurts, rejection hurts, losing someone hurts, and jealousy hurts... Everyone confuses these with love, but in reality, true love is the only thing in this world that soothes all pain, and makes someone feel wonderful again... So, no matter what people may say, love, is the only thing that does not hurt... If you are ever fortunate enough to experience the feeling of true love... never... ever let it go!"

Lust...

Lust is all about how someone makes YOU feel. It is inherently selfish, in that it is about getting instead of giving. Love is the opposite... Love, is about giving, instead of being focused on what you are getting...

What is Lust?

Lust is any intense desire or craving for gratification and excitement. Lust can mean strictly sexual lust, although it is also common to speak of a 'lust for men', or a 'lust for power' (or other goals)... If one wants another only for some self-satisfaction, usually in the form of sensual pleasure, that wrong desire takes the form of lust rather than love, and should not be confused...

Love is a much deeper, more secure feeling than that of lust. Love makes you more concerned about the other person than about yourself. Love lasts, lust and infatuation don't... However, those that are truly in love still can lust after one another and get those butterfly feelings for one another even after being in the relationship for many years...

Finally, the lust that is born of physical compatibility is the only type of lust that goes with a loving relationship... A couple who combine physical chemistry with emotional and intellectual compatibility, and who act in objective and benevolent ways, can create a profoundly contented and life-enhancing experience. That experience is commonly known as love... The more we are filled with thoughts of lust, the less we find true romantic love...

Desire...

Desire is a sense of longing for a person or object or hoping for an outcome... The same sense is expressed by emotions such as 'craving'... When a person desires something or someone, their sense of longing is excited by the enjoyment or the thought of the item or person, and they want to take actions to obtain their goal... The motivational aspect of desire, has long been noted by philosophers, that human desire is the fundamental motivation of all human action...

What is Desire?

The dictionary, describes the word 'Desire' as... To long for; to wish for earnestly; to covet...

In desire, the feeling is usually more eager than as in a wish... Desire, contrary to general belief, is the most precious possession of man. It is the eternal flame of life. If you kill your desire, you are like the withered branch of a lovely tree...

While desires are often classified as emotions by the lay person, psychologists often describe desires as different from emotions; they tend to argue that desires arise from bodily structures, such as the stomach's need for food, whereas emotions arise from a person's mental state.

The theme of desire is at the core of the romance novel, which often create drama by showing cases where human desire is impeded by social conventions, class, or cultural barriers... Just as desire is central to the written fiction genre of romance, it is the central theme of melodrama films, which use plots that appeal to the heightened emotions of the audience by showing 'crises of human emotion, failed romance or friendship', in which desire is thwarted or unrequited...

Heart...

The human heart is what keeps us alive, by continually pumping blood through our arteries, and around our body... But it really is so much more...

According to folk law, the heart is the seat of intuition, love, creativity, wisdom, gratitude, faith, emotion, imagination, desire and the like. The finest values and qualities are associated with the heart rather than the mind, as the expressions... 'But the eyes are blind, one must look with the heart...' and... 'It is not what you have in your pocket that makes you thankful, but what you have in your heart...', illustrate as an example...

The heart may also be responsible for the production of 'Oxytocin', fondly referred to as the 'love hormone'... Expressions such as, 'Open your heart', or... 'My heart goes out to you', may be more than symbolic. Some people habitually visualise their heart opening and reaching out to others, making them more calm, confident, compassionate and creative...

Trust your Heart...

When choosing a flavour of ice cream, an item of clothing, or even a home, you might be better off letting your emotions guide you... Likewise, the same applies to emotions of the heart, such as longing, desire, separation from ones you love and the deep intense emotional feelings that the heart produces... The expression... 'No matter how many times you are told she will break your heart, or how many times she does it, you'll never give up, Why?...because you love her...' is the perfect example...

It seems the old adage 'trust your heart', is true in every sense of the word... If one buys a house and relies on very cognitive attributes such as resale value, one may not be as happy actually purchasing it... Ultimately, no matter what people may say, the heart can very well serve as a more reliable compass to greater long-term happiness than pure reason...

If your head is telling you 'no', but you feel it in your heart... then simply follow your heart, because it is the one part of our 'subconscious', that is normally correct !

PLEASE NOTE: The comments and information concerning Love, Lust, Desire and Heart, and other expressions or interpretations that may appear on this page, are intended to be as a guide and for information purposes only... It is not to be considered as an exhaustive interpretation upon the subject, and is based solely upon the author's own knowledge, understanding and experience... Further, the author does not purport to be an exhaustive authority upon the matter, and has no scholary qualifications on the subject, other than from the 'University of Life'!..

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